Dating After Betrayal
Dating After Betrayal is a candid, grounded, and deeply honest exploration of love, self-trust, and rebuilding after betrayal.
Through real dating stories, voice-note-worthy reflections, and honest conversations, Haelly Kirk breaks down what’s actually happening beneath the surface after heartbreak. From attachment patterns and mixed signals to people-pleasing, chemistry, discernment, and learning how to trust yourself again.
This isn’t a podcast about “dating perfectly.”
It’s about understanding why betrayal changed the way you see love, men, yourself, and your future.
It’s about noticing your patterns, questioning the stories betrayal left behind, and learning how to date from clarity, confidence, and calm power instead of fear, fantasy, or survival mode.
Come for the dating stories.
Stay for the self-trust.
Dating After Betrayal
5 Steps To Get You In Control of Your Brain
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This podcast is going to dive deep into one of my favorite coaching tools, The Model. This was developed by Brooke Castillo and rooted from the work of Bryon Katie. The model goes like this:
5 Steps
Circumstances:
Thoughts:
Feelings:
Actions:
Results:
Circumstances: These are the facts, take out the drama. They said words, they did actions, are examples of circumstances. These are the things outside of you, the things you can't control.
THOUGHTS: This is what precedes the circumstance. When something happens what comes to mind, this is the drama. This is where the ego resides and dominates, or unconscious thought, the thoughts that just come to you without your awareness.
FEELINGS: These are the emotions that come from the thoughts that you are thinking. These are one word answers like angry, sad, afraid, fearful, hopeless, happy, peaceful, joyful.
ACTIONS: These are the behaviors you excude because of the the thoughts you are believing and emotions you are feeling. Do you like the behaviors?
RESULTS: This is the conclusion of what you are thinking feeling and acting, what does this give you, do you like how you are showing up? Do you like the results, especially considering that sometimes you cant change circumstances all the time.
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