Dating After Betrayal
Dating After Betrayal is a candid, grounded, and deeply honest exploration of love, self-trust, and rebuilding after betrayal.
Through real dating stories, voice-note-worthy reflections, and honest conversations, Haelly Kirk breaks down what’s actually happening beneath the surface after heartbreak. From attachment patterns and mixed signals to people-pleasing, chemistry, discernment, and learning how to trust yourself again.
This isn’t a podcast about “dating perfectly.”
It’s about understanding why betrayal changed the way you see love, men, yourself, and your future.
It’s about noticing your patterns, questioning the stories betrayal left behind, and learning how to date from clarity, confidence, and calm power instead of fear, fantasy, or survival mode.
Come for the dating stories.
Stay for the self-trust.
Episodes
106 episodes
When Men Say They Don’t Date Single Moms: Preference, Contempt, and Being a Package, Not Baggage
If you’ve ever heard a man say, “I don’t date single moms,” and felt that little sting in your chest, this episode will help you separate preference from contempt without making someone else’s belief mean something is wrong with you.In t...
What to Do When a Guy Sends You a Rude Joke or Meme
If you’re still questioning whether you’re “too sensitive,” this episode will help you understand what to do when a man sends you a rude joke, meme, or comment that does not feel funny.In this episode, Haelly talks about a real message s...
What Do You Want? Why It’s Not That Simple
In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most deceptively simple questions: “What do you want?” Inspired by The Notebook scene where Noah asks Allie this question and she says, “It’s not that simple,” we explore why wanting can feel...
What You Haven’t Learned From Betrayal Yet: A Case Study on Samson and Delilah
If you are interested in learning more about how to heal from betrayal and the sneaky ways you might be sabotaging your future with your dream person, book a call with me
The Mother’s Day Episode You Didn’t Know You Needed
Mother’s Day is beautiful… and for some of us, it’s complicated.In this episode, I’m talking about the part of motherhood we don’t always say out loud: the grief, the guilt, the resentment, the longing, and the little girl inside of us w...
The Story You Inherited About Men: What It’s Actually Shaping
In this episode, I’m introducing The Dating Mind Detox by exploring how the stories we inherited about men may still be shaping the way we date today. Before we ever experienced heartbreak, betrayal, ghosting, or dating apps, many of us ...
The Courtroom, The Betrayal, and Why I Became A Dating Coach
This episode is a little bit of everything… the courtroom, the betrayal, and the lessons that came through it.I share what happened with my pendente lite case, how I almost didn’t file, and what shifted when I finally decided to take act...
The Dating Mistake that Feels Like "Being Nice": Mr. Styrofoam Explained
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He Was Everything… Except Available 💔 Mr. Logistically Unavailable, Explained
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The Internet Says Single Moms Are "Ruining The Dating Pool"....
Single moms — or those of you who know and love a single mom — pay attention.I’m hosting a FREE workshop called Love Without Anxiety on March 9th and March 16th at 5:30 PM EST, where I’ll be teaching ...
Dating Isn’t Working… Yet: The Art of Wanting
If you’ve been dating for a while and it hasn’t worked…If you’ve gone on the apps, tried the dates, put yourself out there… and still haven’t found your person…If you’re starting to feel rejected, tired, maybe even a little hopele...
Demystifying Imposter Syndrome: What It’s Actually Pointing To
Imposter syndrome is usually treated like a confidence problem. But what if it’s actually information?In this episode, we demystify imposter syndrome by exploring what it’s really pointing to — not as a flaw to fix, but as a sig...
Cracks, But Not Broken: Healing with Fire, Faith & Feminine Power with Adlin Morales Aguilú
In this powerful and heart-opening episode, I sit down with clinical therapist, woman of faith, and fierce advocate for healing, Adlin Morales Aguilú, to talk about her book Cracks, But Not Broken.Adlin shares her deeply ...
Presence over Perfection: The Christmas We Actually Need
Christmas has a way of convincing us that it has to be bigger, better, and more beautiful every year. In this episode, Haelly uses How the Grinch Stole Christmas as a mirror for modern holiday pressure, reflecting on Martha May Whovier...
For That Day When Shit Hits the Fan… Yeah, Listen to This.
Today was one of those days — and if you’ve ever had a moment where everything collapses at once, this episode is for you.My car literally died in the middle of the road. A stranger in a giant truck rescued me. ...
Dating Like a Scientist: The Art of Experimenting Without Losing Yourself
What if dating didn’t have to feel heavy, confusing, or high-stakes? In this episode, Haelly breaks down the simple shift that transformed her entire dating journey — moving from pressure and performance mode into pure curiosity.
Let Them Be Wrong About You, Pumpkin 😉
This episode began with my son being sick… and somehow turned into a spiritual masterclass on identity, boundaries, motherhood, and one very wise pumpkin.In Episode 90, I share the slow, quiet day that cracked my heart open — th...
Why Children Think Everything Is Their Fault
In this episode, I share a moment at the airport that completely reshaped the way I see motherhood. After rewatching Freakier Friday, I was reminded of the day Israel thought I was mad at him—simply because I rushed a goodbye on my way...
Learning to Fall Like a Kid Again—“Mommy, Look! I Fell!”
This week’s episode comes straight from a moment at the park with my son, Israel — and honestly, it wrecked me in the best way. We were climbing this giant spider-web rope structure, bouncing around, and Israel suddenly fell. Not a soft fall — ...
Wicked: Lessons on Friendship, Freedom, and Becoming Wickedly Unlimited
Okay y’all… this one got me. Wicked cracked me wide open. I’m talking goosebumps, tears, full-body chills.In this episode, I dive into the moments that completely undid me — Galinda choosing kindness over coolness, that powerful...
Tiny Wins, Big Energy: The 10x Shift You Don’t See Coming
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Permission to Pout: The Power of a Pity Party
In this episode, we flip the script on sadness. What if falling apart isn’t a failure but a form of emotional intelligence? From the law of entropy that governs the cosmos to the yin-yang truth that darkness and light need each other, she explo...
The Power of ‘Yet’: What Lindsey Stirling Taught Me About Going Pro
Back in July, I went to a Lindsey Stirling concert expecting great music—but I walked away with a life lesson I’ll never forget. In the middle of her performance, she paused to reflect on her journey and said, “I wasn’t good enough… yet.”