Healing with Haelly

82: If You Want Something, Then Let Yourself Have It

If you want something, then let yourself have it.

That’s the lesson I had to face when planning my trip to California — holding my son’s father accountable for his word, navigating the fallout, and choosing my want over fear.

In this episode, I share:

  • The story behind saying yes to California, even when resistance showed up.
  • Why 10x Is Easier Than 2x and what it taught me about wants vs needs, simplicity, and letting go.
  • The story of a young Michelangelo and how his want created 10x results at only 23.
  • The deeper truth of wealth: freedom from vs freedom to.
  • Why wanting is the most vulnerable — and most magical — thing we can do.

And yes, I even tie in one of my favorite childhood movies, HalloweenTown, because its wisdom is still shaping how I live today.

✨ Reflection for you: What do you truly want right now that you haven’t let yourself have?


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